The Art Of Scheduling
It's All About Capacity
When we think about December, the image that immediately comes into our heads is a giant calendar covered in red ink, toddler scrawling covering half the page, coffee spilled on it, maybe a few bite marks on it. None of us want that bad holiday season buzz. (Like when you drink too much coffee and your whole body is uncomfortably vibrating and your brain won’t shut off and you start dreading leaving your house just because you don’t want to talk to another person.)
Wouldn’t it be better if we could pace ourselves and acknowledge our capacities, so that we could have a peaceful holiday season?
(We think so! We’re going to try it this year.)
The best place to start is in aligning ourselves with the heart of God!
1. God is a God of Order
Proverbs 16:9 A person plans his way, but the LORD directs his steps.
God is creative and spontaneous and there’s a swirl of possibility around Him, the originator of all things! And yet, He’s a God of order. In His word He advises us to live lives of healthy rhythm, with boundaries, to order our days and our steps, to plan for the future, to practically manage our time, and ourselves.
We want to be people who know how to rest, who know how to pace ourselves, who understand that we’re a finite resource that NEEDS to stay connected to our Source to be filled and renewed.
Take this time to engage with the Lord, connect to His heart, and ask Him to talk to you about some specific healthy rhythms that He’s ordained for you and your family. Write them down!
Psalm 139:14-16 I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.
Let’s be honest: some people can do more than others and that is OK.
You are going to get invited to fifteen thousand Christmas-related events. If you’re like Kristianna, you’re going to want to do about two thousand and if you’re like her husband, you’ll want to do about one. Uno.
Also, be aware of the limitations of whatever season of parenting that you’re in. If you have a baby who needs a nap and if they don’t get it they’re going to hijack your whole night - then you HAVE to take into consideration that the nap is a priority.
Pull out your calendar and look at your holiday season.
What is your capacity? What is reasonable to try to do if you have one kid, or no kids, or eight kids? What do you WANT to do? (Be realistic. Aim to practice balance.)
Prioritize your relationships. Write down the names of all the people/groups you’re involved in and draw a circle around those who are the most important people, the ones that you are actively investing in. It might be hard in the beginning, but for everyone who is not in that circle, you are going to have to be ok with saying “no” to them, understanding that it doesn’t mean you don’t value or love those people, but that you can’t give your time to them right now.
4. But What Will People Think?
1 John 3:1a See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are.
The arena of scheduling can quickly tap into how we see our worth and our value. We can easily get caught up into the performance mentality of the holidays, wanting to show up at the right places and look great and have our kids’ clothes match, or at least have our kids in clothing.
This is a key time to have a conversation with the Lord about how you feel in regards to attending or not attending different events. Practice those ten-minute conversations in which you tell Him your fears and your feelings, like Kerri said on Episode 16. Take time to ask Him to share with you who He is and who you are in light of who He is.
We all need to be told this, over and over, but your worth and your value are not connected to the opinions of others. More than that, you CANNOT CONTROL what others think or say about you.
Quiet your heart and your thoughts and see if you’re able to allow Jesus to speak His love and HIS OPINION straight into those places of insecurity. If you’re not, it’s ok; He knows what is tender and He knows how to nurture you. Let Him come as close as you can let Him to that place of pain. Listen for what He wants to tell you, right where you are.